February 21-27 is National Eating Disorder Awareness week. What you need to know about Eating Disorders is that they are maintained and thrive on self-loathing. Every day an inner war is fought. In this war, there are only prisoners.
SELF-LOVE is the only way out of disordered eating.
Here is a glimpse of what its like within.
This is for the 20 million women and 10 million men worldwide that struggle with an Eating Disorder–
There is nothing loving about gazing into your bathroom mirror in the morning, only to jump start your day with the all too familiar internal song of not good enough, not skinny enough, not attractive enough, not enough…
I know there is nothing kind about skipping dinner, running with an injury, doing hot yoga when you desperately need a nap or eating until your stomach aches. Deciding to skip lunch so you feel in control, and thus confidant, for that board meeting, is a form of self-sabotage. It always backfires. Inevitably you will end up at a loss for words because your brain needs glucose to function. When you continue to skip meals, your brain shrinks, a fact that you sadly and too frequently overlook
How convenient, big-beautiful brains are not an essential ingredient in our culture’s recipe for pretty!
Thinking that you will finally be acceptable when you fit into “those” jeans or there is a magic number on a scale that suddenly signals you are “okay” are acts of disempowerment. Whenever you look for approval anywhere outside of yourself, whenever you objectify yourself, you have given your power away dear one.
You don’t have to buy in to their beautiful! It only works because you believe that what is outside of you is the authority. Nothing could be further from the truth!
Canceling on friends so you don’t have to face the menu, dumping significant others because you can’t ever imagine them seeing you naked and fearing pregnancy because of how it will change your body is not a life well lived.
It’s not a life at all!
There is a saying in the Eating Disorder community that you are only good at an Eating Disorder when you are dead or damn near close. 1 in every 6 people with an Eating Disorder will meet this fate.
Maybe you are “just” living somewhere on the disordered eating spectrum?
Regardless, please know, every time you turn away from nourishing yourself, you turn away from living your life—a day is lost, a connection missed, your potential never fulfilled, your individual dreams are never realized.
You don’t have to settle for this. If you or someone you love is struggling with any form of disordered eating or you want to learn more, please contact me.